Micro-summary: Lital wanted to be abducted. I didn't want that to happen. Summary: She begged and pleaded for me to agree to abduct her, described how the abduction must be, kept saying how it'd be a wonderful thing to happen to her. I refused to abduct her. I warned her how dangerous abduction was and how she shouldn't wish for such a thing to happen to her by anyone (not me) who would really do it to her. She eventually admitted she might be harmed by an abductor, but then went right back to her story that she'd someday be abducted and not harmed at all and it'd be a good thing to happen to her. Relevant quotes from her e-mail to me: I will never leave my husband unless by abduction, over which I have no control. ... Erik kidnapped Christine, he could never hurt her. When she cried it killed him. He wanted to make her so happy but he would not release her just because she asked. He wanted her to himself and wanted to be only with her. So you see, his true love made him do that, and he was violent in keeping her yet he loved her so dearly he would never ever touch in harm one hair of her hairs. So I don`t see the abduction things as a sadist cruel selfish and mean act but rather as a part of a big everlasting love, insecurity of the abductor and the wish to control. Maybe this kind of violence is dangerous too, but at least it is not "bad" and has romantic intentions. ... I refer here to the abduction and hostage thing-that is what is exciting in love for me. It is like a child being lost and wants his parents, till someone else find him/her and is a lot better than parents, although the child should be with his/her parents and not with the new stranger. And when this child is devastated and think he is a victim and a hostage he/she discovers how wonderful this new person is to them and how they are lucky that it happened to them. Like the feeling of the being lost itself, is the also very feeling of being reborn and found. ... When I say I want to be abducted sometimes people are thinking (especially in chat rooms) I mean rape and they are so clueless. It is exactly the opposite of what the type I am looking will do. The type I am looking for will put classic music (like Alec) and will bring me my food to bed (at first) and a sext dress and will kiss me and not move away for a second,,, But he will never want to hurt me. Or humiliate me. So in order to satisfy his needs after I am with him he will surely need to masterbate and that is natural. ... if we were together and you would agree to abduct me I would not want to share you with anyone. Especially that I see in children a competeition (any age) because I feel so a child myself. ... I will leave it for your imagination if you think it is rather ironic that the "loved one" should help her abductor. ... Don`t think please that because I want to be abducted I am "tough" or "brave" - I am very very afraid but I can`t stop wanting that. ... If you look at Beaty and the Beast,Hunchback,Phantom and even the story of the king who was disguised as a begger and married another`s king picky daughter, you will see that there is an element of abduction in all. ... Even Christine said she felt nothing bad could happen to her and that Erik was so noble with her and she felt safe with him when he abducted her... Yes, that is exactly what I am looking for! why is abduction too dangerous? ... I don`t want to be abducted now for parents are on they way and I want to see them one last time, and then there is a cruise waiting and then, I am free to be abducted... And also, a good abduction should be never made out of hastiness or else it is doomed to fail.It is something that should be real good planned and stratagemed. ... I like obsessive movies of stalking and abduction.(especially those erotomanic types who are convinced someone is in love with them) ... Thank you for understanding that.Chloroform is dangerous too. ... Anyway I do wonder what could relax me in situations like that...maybe some classical music, still not strong enough, helps, but not enough. Maybe driving around like when I was a kid and spilled on myself boiling water (I was curious and wanted to take the bucket out of the gas myself and that`s how it happened at the age of 2) and after the fact and the emergency care I asked my dad to take me for "a ride" and I fell asleep by the moving of the car... But still, not strong enough to relax 26 female, who is very alert by nature, especially when being abducted. ... I don`t want to be tortured-I just though a shot might help me much. Not a shot that will make me unconcsious ... but just a tranquilier that will help me fall asleep more easily. ... I like the typical obsessive man who abducts and then sits in the living room listening to classical music LOUD. This favorite scene is remembered well by me from the Deadbolt movie...(Mallory). But I don`t remember if he was listening to Bethoven and she is not Jewish... I just read what you said about that music... I still think that even that Bethhoven did not mean it would be used like that, I still can`t enjoy it for the history and my respect for the murdered. I like Pachelabel but I don`t think there is a composer that could relax me in that kind of stressful situation. ... yes I promise to give a chance to other ways either than abduction. I agree that abduction is a crime but not because of that I say it but because I am a chicken sometimes! ... What bothers me the most is why do you claim that most stalkers would rape+kill me after they abduct me? Why can`t I find someone who will never want to hurt me, and will be in love with me, but will never let me out of his sight, like in various cases I have heard of? ... my need to be abducted ... I would want romantic stalking which would include flowers from an anonymous,love letters,and plans for abduction ... The chloroform is only for the act of abduction. Just try to think from a poit of view of an abductor:how can he keep me comfortable yet be sure I won`t leave? ... I wanted someone like Erik or Alec, who will abduct me not to be lonely anymore and out of his obsession for me. This kind of an abductor could never hurt me(unless I repeatedly provoked him), would never rape me and will truly love me. He will not treat me as a sex slave but would rather respect me and do anything he can to make it easier for me. Do you understand? Please answer this point - it is VERY important to me. ... The abduction should be about love,and love only.The ultimate love...like Erik`s. ... I don`t want "half" ways. It`s either everything (abduction forever) or nothing. Why can`t you see it my way??? ... You frightened me by telling me how other abductors would torture me IGNORING what kind of abductor I want, who could never torture me. ... That shows me you could never really abduct me. ... if I got real hurt from something, I may try to leave, and I expect that my future abductor would do anything, just ANYTHING (besides killing me or hurting me of course) to stop me which could include tempting me with gifts, begging and physically holding me and even tying me. .. Would be able to listen to your collection of music only if abducted. ... You knwo, the abduction I have been craving is not about sex at all. ... Like evrybody that dated me or was with me found me cute and lovely and all, but no one understood my need for obsessive man. Like I had to pretend I am "cool" and all, when I was so broken inside that no obsessive man will ever love me. And now I found you, which completely contradicts the terrible fate I thought that was mine... If you get to have a high income+you can literally be with me 24/7, take care of me, obsess mainly emotionally about me and love me lik Erik loved christine+yet keeping me as a prisoner after the abduction forever-then it is my lifelong dream and earthly mission and I can die peacefully.(after a lot of years with you of course). Nobody really understood my need to be with the same person and only with him all the time. ... I really hope that one day I could reciprocate to you by showing you that if you abducted me I won`t bite/kick/scratch or in any other way hurt you, and you would finally see face to face that I am not a bitch. ... Hubby is still so bad to me. It makes me even sadder I will be "stuck" with him without you. *(during ocean cruise)* If only you were rich and would abduct me from one of the islands to smuggler me to the Northwest to your logcabin, only the two of us forever, far from ungrateful hubby. Who will I run to cry on his shoulder when you are not there? ... I look for moderated controlled violence, both in the abduction itself and the hostage situation and both in my sex fantasies, ... I want that the abduction and keeping me as a hostage would be the ONLY two forced things. Everything else will be a paradise, a new heaven. I know it is possible. Like Erik and Christine. ... You are right though that in abduction I could be hurt physically. ... Second,why would anyone who would abduct me for love want to be violent towrads the woman he loves? Erik could nevr hurt Christine!!! ... I always seen forced abduction as the ultimate expression of love. ... I like to share with you my life and to hear about yours. I like to be in daily touch. ... Regarding Erik (which she believed was reincarnated as me) and Christine (which she believed reincarnated as herself), she said: if she loved him, I would not be now here writing to you for I would never be born. ... If I had done my mission back then I would not need to come back. Those were her last words to me (by e-mail) before she suddenly disappeared.